I grew up during the low-tech days
of record albums. My dad had a big music collection. He loved jazz, swing, and
the big bands. I grew up listening to Duke Ellington, Glenn Miller, and Errol
Garner. And every now and then he’d pull out the music he loved the most – the
bagpipes. He especially delighted in playing one of those albums on mornings
when we were getting up for ski trips. My sister and I, sleeping like little
stones, screamed in horror at the assault on our tender little ears when he put
on some pipe and drum band and turned the volume up to full blast in order to
wake us up.
Dad really did have a sadistic
streak. He loved the old wooden hotels of the White Mountains and would take us
on an old wooden hotel tour every summer. We would stop and marvel at Gray’s
Inn (my favorite) and the pre-renovation Wentworth. Dad would give us a rundown
on the history of each one.
Eventually we’d make our way up to the Mt. Washington, and go up and
around and come back down through Berlin. The paper mills were still booming.
It was before pollution controls. It was before air conditioning was a standard
feature in cars. We would scream in horror at the assault on our tender little
noses, and beg Dad to put up the windows. He would smirk as he drove through Berlin.
The only thing that would have made his delight complete would have been the
ability to play a bagpipe album at the same time, but sadly (for him) that
technology was years away.
Dad was never able to infect us
with his enthusiasm for the music of our ancestors. An amateur history buff, he
had a number of books on the history of Scotland, and our clan. All Bruces
claim kinship to King Robert, the legendary freedom fighter. As a snotty
teenager, I thought the music was awful and the food sounded worse. Haggis –
OMG! And that was before I knew what it smelled like.
My father died in 1998, in the
hospice wing of Exeter hospital. The hospice nurses were wonderful to us all,
and suffered through hours of bagpipes droning away from my father’s room, with
big smiles, pretending it was great.
It is.
I don’t know when it all changed
for me, but in 2002, I found myself dragging David Emerson to the Highland
Games at Loon Mountain. David had not grown up with exposure to the bagpipe,
and couldn’t possibly have been prepared for all that awaited him that day. He
bravely faced down all that plaid, and all that sound. He watched the tossing
of the caber with delight. David marched off to the food tent, and came back
saying words I never thought I’d ever hear strung together in a sentence:
“They’re out of haggis.” We found a small band of wild men (and one wild woman)
lurking in a corner playing loud drums and pipes. It was loud, tribal, and
completely irresistible. I bought their CD. It was the first of what has become
a small collection of bagpipe CDs. There is always at least one in the car, and
usually more like half a dozen.
This year I hadn’t planned on going
to the Games. I had several other commitments. Then a friend won tickets to the
first day, and called and very generously asked me to join her. I got out my
clan sash, and polished my father’s sterling silver clan badge. Wally would
have giggled at thought of me with a clan sash. Add a clan badge, bagpipe CDs
in the car, and a trip to Lincoln and he would have been clutching his sides
and weeping with laughter. He and David are the ghosts whom I bring to the
joyous celebration of all things Scot and many things Not. My ghosts were
surely amused that I drove home through the fiery fall hills - half deaf from being in the front of
the stage while Albannach played just before we left.
Back in 2002, I spoke with the
Bruce clan chief about the family motto: Fuimus, which means, “We were.” That
sounded a little defeatist, I told him. Couldn’t we add “and we still are – or
we might be again?” He just laughed at me – but surely the descendents of King
Robert deserve better. (That holds true for the tartan as well.) Thanks to
Braveheart (and its highly romanticized version of history) everyone loves King
Robert. John McCain tried to claim that he was a descendent of Robert The, back
in 2008 when he was running for president. His claim was speedily (and
mockingly) debunked.
I don’t know when it all changed
for me, but when my daughter and I go to visit the cemetery where my family is
buried, we visit all of the graves, and usually have some offbeat offerings to
leave at Wally’s grave – small toy tractors or trucks. And we park the car as
close as we can to where my father is buried, and we roll down all the windows,
open the sunroof and all of the doors and put on a bagpipe CD and turn the
volume up as high as it will go.
Can the sound of those loud
bagpipes reach all the way into the afterlife where my father can hear them?
There is, of course, no way to know.
It doesn’t matter. What matters is
that while we are there we’re telling stories, we’re remembering, and he’s
there with us for a while. We laugh. We cry a little. We remember – and we take
a little of him with us when we go.
© sbruce 2013
published as a biweekly column in the Conway Daily Sun newspaper
1 comment:
I too was raised with jazz in the house - my Dad and I danced around the room to Duke Ellington on many occasions. My mom was Scottish, but the Scots in my family were somewhat proper, and the music in them died when my mom died, too young.
But the haunting melodies of Scottish folk music, and yes, the sound of the bagpipe, have always gotten through to me.
I recently got to celebrate my step-mother's life at her grave site. After reading your wonderful piece, am thinking I should have had Duke Ellington blasting from the nearby car. I know he would have loved setting it all to his favorite music.
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